2014 Relationship lessons

2014 has been a splendid year, with its challenges and blessings, I can safely say that I am happy it happened. I have not been lucky in love yet, but have met some individuals who have contributed to my life lessons regarding heart matters. So I'd like to share a few lessons learnt in 2014 (this sounds like project closure, LOL): 1. As a lady, never be apologetic for who you are, your standards and your goals. 2. Know what you what want , always, so that you will be able to attract your hearts desire. 3. Never be afraid to communicate your intentions and what you want from the other person. 4. Be clear in your communication, call a spade a spade in the most polite manner, off course. 5. Never blame anyone (your partner) for your choices. Be responsible in your decision making. If you choose to compromise on something for your guy, don't go running and complaining about the same thing you agreed to compromise on. If you make a decision, Stick with it! 6. Trust your gut feel. listen to your instincts! If something doesn't sound or feel right, query it/investigate/talk to someone, don't just assume it will get better or disappear with time. No honey, I'm afraid you have to deal with it head on and be satisfied that you have resolved it. Trust your instincts. 7. Forgive these guys, yes I know I said it, Forgive. Some things can be forgiven, therefore choose wisely so that whatever you forgive, you can live with. 8. Love yourself, be happy with you before go bringing in another person into your life. Never make the mistake of thinking that the man you will meet will be responsible for your happiness. He is there to share in the happiness with you, so that together you can be one happy element. Lastly you must know this ( I know its been said a hundred times) but the signs are always there of whether the guy is genuine/for real or not/ if he's into you or not: 1. If he is a bad communicator, or does not make any effort to improve his bad communication skills, HE IS BAD NEWS! RUN!. I will not elaborate any further here. 2. If after you've met a guy and he's told you about how interested he is in you but then never makes time to be with you and instead gives you "I'm busy stories" he's shady, RUN. A guy who's just met you will want to use any chance to be around you, because he is interested, he wants to know you, he wants to spend time with you so he will make time. Simple. He will try by all means to be with you because he is interested. Don't be fooled. 3. Look out for bad manners , a guy with bad manners has potential of being aggressive, have anger issues and the likes. You do not need that in your life, trust me. If he says he is going to do something and doesn't get around to doing BUT still does not apologise, that IS bad manners. Everyone makes mistakes but it is those that have enough decency to acknowledge their mistakes and work towards rectifying them. 4. If he rushes to have sex on the first few dates, chances are he will not last. You just be a hit, and you must decide if that is what you want from him. Premature sex hardly ever result in long lasting relationships. Intentions and expectations need to clarified and be communicated before engaging in any sexual activities. The "thirst" has us all hostage, but if it is not just the thirst you are trying to quench, then don't be blinded by sexual acts thinking that it will turn into eternal love. The only eternal thing it will turn into is eternal thirst quenching. With all this said I still believe in love, I still have hope that there are gentleman out there who can love and be loved unconditionally. Love is all we need, but it need not be the end of our lives if we do not find it! I do love love...