Lipstick

Its Women's Day! And what a great way to spend my day then to be at home. Its a Friday,I woke up late, showered, cleaned my house and had a late breakfast. Awesome day. Im in a fantastic mood, just knowing that i am woman and our entire country is celebrating us. One of the things i strongly feel define us as women is our beautiful tool : Lipstick. Lipstick makes a woman, it contributes to her confidence and brings about a sense of contentment and hope. Hope that says everything will be ok. Satisfaction that says:I am a woman, i do not need verification. I am a woman. The beauty that is brought about by that simple smear of color is phenomenal. The colour of the softness and nurturing soul of a woman is highlighted through the aura that lipstick wearer she exudes. Theres joy about a woman with lipstick on, Have you ever seen a grumpy looking woman with lipstick on? I hardly think so. You cant help but smile when you have Lipstick on, the coloured soul jumps out and takes over. There is nothing more sexy than stopping in the middle if traffic and quickly applying a dab of color on your lips before the traffic light turns green. Its a show-stopper moment. Men drool and smile at you, that moment gives any woman an instant spring! You would have to try it to believe it. Sitting in the train waiting for it to Take off, then remembering to touch up your lipstick. That, my friend, separates woman from girls, those around you look at you with envy because that is definately an act of boldness. Girls shift uncomfortably in their seats whilst the men around shake their heads with smiles in realization and appreciation of the difference in sexes. These are the small moments that may be looked down upon but make a big difference on the bearer of the lipstick. I know all of this because i am a lipstick bearer and Wearer. On this Women's Day, dear flowers dont just shine, outshine! Get some color, get lipstick and be liberated. No matter how big your troubles are, put on some lipstick and you will feel better. Your mind will be clearer, you will reach the solution of your troubles with ease. Let us release the power that is in this dynamite tool. LIPSTICK Happy Women's day dear flowers. :♡♥♡

Is He Really Divorced?

Im writing about this as it has been on my mind for a while now. I have noticed that guys who have been married and divorced hardly ever want to talk about their past, what went wrong and what triggered the divorce and all that. well i do understand that men in general arent much talkers. be that as it may when requested, surely they should have enough respect to share their past with their new Found potential lover. All you are left with is question marks, buzzing in your head. I have met my fair share of guys who are dirvoced, and its not to say that i do not like them, but some openness would appreciated. They tend to go about their business as if all is well, or as if you actually live in their heads. Well i term this pure and utter selfishness. Heres an example: i had known this guy for a while before he got divorced. Eventually things didnt go well and they got dirvoced. All this while he was just a friend, whom i knew from work. a year later he then started declaring his love for me *totally unexpected* it came as shock, but he assured me that he had liked me since he was married, at that he couldnt do anything. With him all i knew was the wife had initiated the divorce, and that there had been a General lack of respect, 9 years later * that sounded believable, AS IF! I am certainly not that naive* in any case the divorce fell through and he was all alone. I decided to give him a chance, since i had a bit of respect for him it wasnt difficult for me to fall for his story. He wined and dined me, we had fun, then came the first weekend. I received a courtesy call from him informing me that it was his turn to be with the kids that weekend, and so he wouldnt be able to see me. Fair enough, I Believed him, since he had done the decent act of informing me. At least i would have no expectations. Weekend went by with no call, then i got pissed off on sunday and decided to call. Asking if calling me during the 'kids' weekend was that much of a mission or what. He had a wishy washy story about how the phone is not a priority with the kids around. That hurt, even though he said it as general statement that applied to everyone and not just me. Following weekend came and this time i Received no warning or anything about the anticipated weekend activies with the kids again! I learnt this as i called on a saturday morning, that it was a schools sports day for the kids. To cut the long story short it didnt work out, as this guy seemed to use the kids cards a tad too much for the initial stage the relation was in. Dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with him spending time with his precious beings, but Word of Advice: if you dating a single, never married , with no kids kind of lady then you should tread with a bit of more sensitivty . This is only but a fraction of the events i could write about. But such Events just leave you wondering if this man you are opening your heart to is really divorced. Going forward i think i will do myself justice and run a thorough and proper backbround check on the marital status of the acclaimed divorcee. I have a long life to live and i wouldnt want my heart being shredded into pieces by a confused dirvoced man There are good divorced men out there, but unfortunately i havent met the one that has never left me wondering if he is still married or not. Ladies tread carefully... ♥ Salute

Am I bored?

I'm watching my dvds today, so i decided to start with Think Like A Man, Act Like a Lady.....yeah i love ut. Now im watching He's Just Not that Into You.....love it too. Ive had a glass of gin and tonic (the last drops) :-( I will survive. I just cant help to think of when last was I on a proper date, with a decent guy. People just wanna come by your house. THE NERVE OF MEN OUT THERE!!! Utterly shocking. Well i dont allow for such shortcuts . I keep, well i try, my standards. Let me get back to my movie. Cheers ♥

I will Survive !

I swear my life is going to ruins. Too many things that are not right, a whole list of them. Now where do i start my list 1. My tv/decoder does not play quite a number of channels that i pay for on a monthly basis. This has been going on since FEBRUARY!!!! thats when i moved in here. I cant believe this. The last thing im left to do is to go to Multichoice with the damned decoder. So i dont see Vuzu tv, BigBrotherAfrica,BBCL , . Im sure you are asking yourself what on earth am i watching. I mean i already have half bouqet so im not left with much. 2. My oven decided to smoke up at some point when i was trying to bake my lasagna, so i havent been able to bake or roast in the past months. You know how i love cooking and baking right, well i do. 3. My washing machine refused to connect to the pipe here, so i havent been able to get the correct size pipe. Ive been driving around with it since months ago. Sigh. So i manually pour the water into the tub. Imagine all that manual work . 4. My bedroom has carpet(im not sure how i overlooked this little detail, because i suffer from bad sinuses, plus my chest is not 100%. So before i sleep i have to let out a little sneeze or cough...eish hay fever all over 5. My car is dusty! I was stopped by a metro cop the other day , he simply told me to get my car washed and let me go. Lol. Dont worry ill wash it this weekend With all this, i think i need disaster management unit to come and rescue me lol. One by one i plan to tackle these problems, i will not be defeated!!... I WILL SURVIVE Much ♥

MTN_SAMA19

Like most South Africans, tonight i am watching the MTN SAMAs from the comfort of my couch.  Theres no Minnie, Bonang or Sizwe. Im sure people are wondering how this turn out, well So far so good. Toya de lazy opened the show, i must say the technology failed her there. it wasnt as es epic as i had expecfed. i am a big fan, im sure i was the first few people that bought the album.

I thoroughly enjoyed the Desmonds and the Tutus together with Kabelo and Big Nuz was epic! Now we all know anything with Big Nuz is a winner!

Then came Zahara,wrapped up in Mrs Jones curtain! horrifying. All i thought was 'girl the days for The Sound of Music improvisation of outfuts are over. Shame to her stylist, if she has one. Khabomo on the other hand has pulled off that white suite very well for the body size that he is. Twitter is buzzing about Boity's hair, how bad it is. To be honest i see nothing wrong. 

And what is that Mabindu grouo wearing!!....shirts made of chiffon....in Red! Horror Then one of the members wets his pants, i wonder. 

well Donald is definately in love again, his Valentines inspired performance was convincing. and Newcomer of the year goes tovToya de Lazy!!!....well deserved girl. 

i think theres too many adverts in between. its after 10pm and im stilk waiting for that super Wow moment.  Kelly Khumalo looks stunning, with her all black outfit and her blonde hair. Best dressed can go to Nhlanhla Ncinza tonight. 

finally Lira drapped in Liquid Gold, Stunning! Well done Gert . She looks like an Egyptian queen. The perfirmance is phenomenal. Then kelly Khumalo performed and the camera went behind her, NUDITY,! 

well its all coming to an end now, and they are wrapping up with Dr Malingas performance, mine and the crowds favourite!! Awesome !

Ive had a geniunely great laugh, I hope next year I will be blogging from the venue itself.

Salute darlings, ♥

Hibernation Weekend ...

It's been a great week, with a holiday right in the middle (May day). the sun was shining, I rested like every working person should have been doing. It is now the weekend, well a few hours until it starts, and my phone has received those questions: What are you doing for the weekend Nokie? to be honest with you, I have zero plans. Zilch, Zero, nada !! and guess what? I am not the least bothered. Today i had to drop my car in for service, so you can imagine the amount of money i paid there. So my weekend activities shall be minimal, sadly. It will give me more  time to think about other activities I can engage in that can make me an extra income. Why not?. 

My ear is itchy, and in my culture if that happens, then someone is talking about me. lol. funny isn't it. Ok i have just received a call, my car is ready. I had asked my colleague to take me there once they call, i hope he is still around. Otherwise I'll be doomed! I always wonder what I would do if I didn't have plan B or back up plans as they call it. People are not reliable, and if you are a single lady, aich it's so hard hey. I will never forget the incident when my toilet blocked and I was not about to call a plumber, I was flat broke(though I hate to label myself like that) and so I had to think fast and make  a plan. I went to speak to one of the security guys at the complex and asked him if he would be able to assist, and he said he would try. and so I headed to the shops to try and find a Toilet Plunger!!!! yes I found it and brought it home ( I'm sure the cashier lady was wondering what I was doing with that thing). I got home, called the security guy and we went up to my place. He even came prepared with gloves shame. He sorted it out shem, I will forever be grateful to that guy, He really helped me in a very desperate situation, because I would have had to do it myself. IMAGINE!!! well yeah, the perks of being single. not nice at times. Back to my point, so at that time I could not think of a single male that could've assisted me hey, can you believe that. I told myself I would have to review my LBB (Little Black Book)....or maybe scrap it out all together, LOL.

I hope wherever you are single or not, understand the importance of having people around you, because you just never know hey.

Salute <3

Whats for dinner?

i know its a Monday dear people , but everyone has to eat something. whether you are feeling guilty from the weekend binging , or you are starting a new , new weeek, new diet ....well you have to eat.

yesterday i didnt do the whole 7 coloures sunday lunch that i often do, maybe not with all the coloures but some colour. i decided to go simple and made the macaroni and cheese. i enjoyed it, it turned out great. BUT there is no meat in that dish you know, yes i said it. i know i sound like a little scavenger ,....but ladies need protein too. So today i came home and made pork chops! yummy!....Macaroni and cheese with a pork chop on the side ♥no vegies i know, bad girl. i had three fruits at least.

So on that note let me enjoy my dinner, i hope you will be inspired to whip up a lil something and enjoy.

Much Love ♥

Encounters: What's a girl to do?

It is always interesting to meet someone new, by that someone I mean a man. I meet them alright, but ask me where they vanish off to? I don't have the slightest clue myself. I turned 30 this year, and It seems at that age men talk to you in a different manner. Recently this guy, I know from back in  2010, popped up out of nowhere. He came to where I am currently working last Friday, sat and chatted to me for a while. his subject was : I need you Nokwanda, I am tired of just dating for no purpose, I need to settle down and you are the girl for me. Wow, I was taken aback! Well not that much because I for one believe in actions rather than spoken word. so I told him that I will see by his actions how serious he was.

The weekend came, Saturday morning I received a lousy "Good Morning babe" from this "I want you in my life Nokwanda" guy!!!! I did not respond until much later with a simple Morning. and that was it! Communication for the weekend closed. the weekend ended and the week started, Monday morning I left my desk only to come back to 5 missed calls on all my phones including the work phone. Who had died!!! No one, it was this silly excuse of a guy calling me, because hey he had woken up from the weekend and oh he realized that there's a girl called Nokwanda. Mcwim.

today it's a Friday and I have not heard or been invited to any dinner date or outing by this guy. I am not surprised, guys love to throw around silly words to girls, well the thing is I am older and wiser. I will not make any contact with this guy, if he wants me he knows where and how to find me.

Guys have lost all sense of game, I mean what on earth is a girl to do? Living single is NOT a bad option, until I meet the one that will do right! Yes, do right. we cannot allow ourselves to tolerate mediocrity  it's not good for our health and self esteem, period.

Keep reading for more encounters......SALUTE

Weather Blues

Its The cold season and I am certainly NOT the biggest fan. I am summer baby, Born during the heart of summer: January. So you can imagine. My outings are now super limited, I can't stay out too late. My home will get sick of me soon. I am seriously counting the months until spring comes. 

Besides the weather being doom and gloom I have my studies coming up and I cannot wait!! it has been a while since I read a book for exam purposes, but hey I am older and wiser with more discipline than before. 

I currrently came across a blog, very well written I might add. It's about a Zulu girl that went up to Johannesburg to study, and boy did she get the Johannesburg experience!! It's unputdownable, last night i read until 1am, imagine!I hope someone can see her good work and offer to publish, only because i think it can be an eye opener to most youngsters who come up to Johannesburg for the first time. The series of events is almost unbelievable but it's all true, and it happens on a daily basis. So should it ever get published, it will definately be used as a tool or guide to : Starting a life in Johannesburg, The Do's an Don'ts . I haven't even fnished reading all the chapters but I have such recommendations for it, maybe it's because I also come from KwaZulu Natal. Lol.

On that note, let me get back to work. I will be writing soon. it's bad enough that it's taken me so long to write, but hey  a girl does get busy hey. You know ...

Project Management

Growing up I have been introduced to Project management, through the work that I started by doing. when I was at university I did not know that there was a qualification that focused mainly on Project management. Here I was with my passion for, studying for a science degree in Nutrition. Don't get me wrong, I was fortunate enough to go to a very good girls school that offered us career guidance as well as counselling. I went through aptitude tests, personality tests etc, to try and figure out the route I should take. Luckily enough I had chosen the correct subjects , that could get me into any field of science that I wanted. My first choice being chemical engineering I decided to go with my second choice, which was more driven by passion, nutrition. the studies were great , I learnt a lot and gained more confidence in this field.

the work I started by doing was not related to nutrition but it had some aspects of it, but it was challenging!. there were time frames, deliverable and reports that had to generated. i had to learn fast, and I found myself enjoying the work. Working towards a purpose, a goal, a Milestone. I then started wondering, what could I do to help me understand this field better? I did my research and found a perfect course, a diploma in Project management! Winner. I was happy, from the beginning till the end. I had found my destiny!

Why do I say that, you may ask. Well here is the deal, I am a Capricorn lady. now if you have never come across a Capricorn lady or Man, I suggest you read up on them a bit. I am a strict individual, I have a great sense of urgency, I am focused and I like to see results. In everything. all aspects of life. Personal or Professionally. Give me a meaningful task, and I will run with it until it is thoroughly completed. Yes that's me in a nutshell. So are you surprised that i love this Project management field? I hope not. Lol.

I plan to learn more in this field , and i wish that during the time in high school when we were busy choosing our careers, something or someone could have just picked up my personality and figured that I would do great in this field. Oh well, we can't cry over that now but only be grateful that for as long as I am still alive there is a great amount of possibilities. and that wakes me up every morning, keeps me alive!

One day, I will be a great Project Manager for a great project that will change peoples lives. And that my friend is my utmost wish.

Happy Friday,

Salute <3

Weekend Blues...

The weekend is here!!.....yey! ok What next? I have no plans, nor do i have energy to cook up any. So I get a bbm from my friend asking to meet up for drinks afterwork, Im like well there comes a plan. Bring it on. She has to take a train from Centurion and im leaving from Midrand. Sandton is on my way home(no pun intended)  So its 4:30 and knock off time. Ibgrab my bags abd head to my car. Thep weather is gettung a bit gloomy, it drizzles for a bit but i continue driving. Before i take the Grayston off ramp i ask my friend how far she is, and oops she is still by the offuce since her lift to take her to the station is stuck in traffic.

A little worrying this, because im very clode to entering the Sandtin city parkjng lot. No i did not stop to text my friend, i know, bad driving manners. i am by tge parking lot entrance now and i have an option of going in or just heafing straight home. I get a text from my friend saying i mustnt go into sandton because it doesnt look like she will make it. I am a little disappointed, but i continue to fjnd parking. That proves to ve a difficult for a while abd i get slightly irritated. I park eventually and head to Woolies, there is currentky a sale and si I might find somethung to wear one day. I head straight there, whew tons of variety and so the browse begins. Until i get tired and all clogged up, i am not feeling well and my chest is acting up. I become uncomfortable and leave the shop. Im hungry too!! Goodness could my friday get any better. I spot Mcdonalds and head there for a Spicy cajun meal.

My chest! i need some meds and Clicks pharnarcy is right by the exit. i get assistance from a friendly pharmarcist, pay  for my meds and head to the parking lot. I spot an old school girl, greet her chat a bit and say my goodbyes. i drive off, hand in my fries packet, im starved. Driving and eating , yeah i love that. Guilty pleassure. two bites of the burger and i am Not convinced! You would think only great qulity came from Sandton, well i guess Not.

get home, burger half eaten, fries almost finished. Hobo living this iv swear. With not much to do i change into my pjs, Tv never disapooints. Line up: #Generations, #Tempy Pushas, #LiveAmp.....that should keep me going, right?

oh yes I do watch SABC shows, taboo as it may seem to others. I pay my Dstv and Tv license subscriptions.

Dosed off after my tv shows, with bbm chats in between from my friends.

and so my weekend goes....

Mr, she may Not be into you afterall...

I am a bit tired of being told of what signs to look out for, to determine if the guy likes you or not. Yawn!
well i think as wonen we also have have a say in determining who we would like to be into us or not.Books have been written, websites created, movies made and songs sung advising women with all sorts of warnings. Beyonce in her last album told the worl Girls Run The World! And i couldnt agree more.

Here is my point men are confused when it comes to women, they have these pictueres in their heads about the type of women they would die to meet. When they do happen to meet them , they then realize they have no game plan whatsoever. The wake up call is Dude! She may be your dream girl, but are You her dream guy? I am most certain a lot of guys never ask themselves this question. Or they never take the initiative to find out if they are on the right track or not.

Dont get me wrong I am for good relationships and so on, but people must show some dedication. And so I have a few points that I would like our fellow brothers to consider when  going after a girl, these are merely signs that she is NOT into you, and you must back off and not waste anymore of your time and other resources.

Signs that She is Not That Into You:

1. If she doesnt or never returns your missed calls
2. if she never initiates a conversation with you, via calls, or messages
3. if she only calls you when she needs help, 
4. if she never asks about your family, where you come from etc
5. if she never initiates any outing or activity for the both of you.

Ponder on these gentlemen, and give me feedback. I am no relstionship guru, but i belive there are guys out there who need a wake up call, because they may not have as much game as they thought they had 5 or 10 years ago.

Women have power over who they want, so know when to stop pursuing her.

Salute! ♥

Excuses, oh so unpleasant

At the age of 30 that i am in, certain things just make no sense. Here i am referring to conversations i hold with adults my age or older. Today i will only make reference to the frogs i meet claiming to like me and wanting to date me.

Question is what their actions say? Ok we are not there today. This lame excuse i have heard many times since the beginning of 2013! I didnt think we would still be hearing such lines from grown men in the 21st century. 'I am busy/ was busy' Very lame. I asked this one frog what he meant by that line when he was telling me why he had not called for a whole week and weekend, was he running the country? Managing offshore accounts? CEO for multiple companies? No, I thought not. He also laughed at his pathetic excuse and agreed that I was making sense. If you claim to like someone, your actions should support your spoken word.  Unfortunately he will not be be getting any chance with me, seeing that he started on a bad slate already.

I cannot and will not accept mediocrity! Grown ups should behave like grown ups. If you say you will do something, do it! If you cant, say so. If you tolerate this I can assure you that your children will be next!

Watch out guys, clean up your act and communicate better. Believe me you will begin to see wonders.

Salute!  ♥

Body talk

I woke up with a splitting headache today, now that never or hardly ever happens to me. i continued with h my usual routine, shower, eat , find something to wear etc. .after all this the headache persisted. I le gft the house to come to Rosebank, as i had a few things to do here. After sending my twin's gift via courier services i then decided to sit at Ninos. Did some work kn my tablet, orderd a cup of five roses with soya milk and drank two cups. Now usually when i feel heavy and tired this tea revives me, oh no not today. 

I had to then resort to taking a pain killer, because i saw that if i didnt my head would crack!!...it hit me right there when a thought crossedbmy mind, i am now 30 and clearly my body will be slower in reacting to remedies such as a cup of tea to cure a headache.

i feel better now having taken a pain tablet. I am even surprised myself tobbe admitting to such. All i can say is let us appreciate our lives, maintain a healthy lifestyle and learn to listen to our bodies when they cry out to us and respond accordingly.

i hope i have learnt something from this and hopefully i can have the ability to help someone in future who finds themselves in my situation.

salute! :