Ladies, let's be honest

Ladies, let us be honest for a bit. There is no way that we are always claiming innocence after breakups. It is time we did some introspection and admitted to our contribution to the breakup. There is absolutely no way that gents are always to be blamed for our breakups. Have you ever sat back and asked yourself the following questions?: 1. How was my self-esteem during this relationship? 2. My decision making mechanism, did it resemble that of a lady that could build a home one day? 3. Financial management, did i manage my finances in a manner that expressed responsibility and maturity? 4. What did i ever do for the guy? Were there any ideas that you came up with? Or you just always waited on the guy to "entertain " you? 5. How are is your relationship with friends and family? Do you nurture relationships? Do hou go out of your way to be there for others i.e birthday parties, baby showers, funerals, weddings etc. 6. Do you look after yourself, healthwise? Do you care for your image? Do you care about the state of your house? These are some, but not limtied to, examples of questions you can ask yourself as a lady to check if you were honestly the good quality girlfirend that your ex would have appreciated yiu to be. It can sound meaningless to some but guys are often simple beings. They are not looking for their buddy, or child to look after. Instead they also look for a lady that loves herself, respects herself, cares for others, compliments their partner. Contributes positively in the building of a solid relationship. We cannot relax and expect miracles just because we are somewhat pretty to look at. The pretty face needs to be accompanied by a warm heart, cleanliness, good self esteem, sound and well thought out life decisions. As we move to new relationships or manoeuvre our way in our relationships, let us be mjndlful of our contribution. Always aim to buold and sustain. Love is the greatest gift of all. Let us nurture it 💞