Is He Really Divorced?

Im writing about this as it has been on my mind for a while now. I have noticed that guys who have been married and divorced hardly ever want to talk about their past, what went wrong and what triggered the divorce and all that. well i do understand that men in general arent much talkers. be that as it may when requested, surely they should have enough respect to share their past with their new Found potential lover. All you are left with is question marks, buzzing in your head. I have met my fair share of guys who are dirvoced, and its not to say that i do not like them, but some openness would appreciated. They tend to go about their business as if all is well, or as if you actually live in their heads. Well i term this pure and utter selfishness. Heres an example: i had known this guy for a while before he got divorced. Eventually things didnt go well and they got dirvoced. All this while he was just a friend, whom i knew from work. a year later he then started declaring his love for me *totally unexpected* it came as shock, but he assured me that he had liked me since he was married, at that he couldnt do anything. With him all i knew was the wife had initiated the divorce, and that there had been a General lack of respect, 9 years later * that sounded believable, AS IF! I am certainly not that naive* in any case the divorce fell through and he was all alone. I decided to give him a chance, since i had a bit of respect for him it wasnt difficult for me to fall for his story. He wined and dined me, we had fun, then came the first weekend. I received a courtesy call from him informing me that it was his turn to be with the kids that weekend, and so he wouldnt be able to see me. Fair enough, I Believed him, since he had done the decent act of informing me. At least i would have no expectations. Weekend went by with no call, then i got pissed off on sunday and decided to call. Asking if calling me during the 'kids' weekend was that much of a mission or what. He had a wishy washy story about how the phone is not a priority with the kids around. That hurt, even though he said it as general statement that applied to everyone and not just me. Following weekend came and this time i Received no warning or anything about the anticipated weekend activies with the kids again! I learnt this as i called on a saturday morning, that it was a schools sports day for the kids. To cut the long story short it didnt work out, as this guy seemed to use the kids cards a tad too much for the initial stage the relation was in. Dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with him spending time with his precious beings, but Word of Advice: if you dating a single, never married , with no kids kind of lady then you should tread with a bit of more sensitivty . This is only but a fraction of the events i could write about. But such Events just leave you wondering if this man you are opening your heart to is really divorced. Going forward i think i will do myself justice and run a thorough and proper backbround check on the marital status of the acclaimed divorcee. I have a long life to live and i wouldnt want my heart being shredded into pieces by a confused dirvoced man There are good divorced men out there, but unfortunately i havent met the one that has never left me wondering if he is still married or not. Ladies tread carefully... ♥ Salute

Am I bored?

I'm watching my dvds today, so i decided to start with Think Like A Man, Act Like a Lady.....yeah i love ut. Now im watching He's Just Not that Into You.....love it too. Ive had a glass of gin and tonic (the last drops) :-( I will survive. I just cant help to think of when last was I on a proper date, with a decent guy. People just wanna come by your house. THE NERVE OF MEN OUT THERE!!! Utterly shocking. Well i dont allow for such shortcuts . I keep, well i try, my standards. Let me get back to my movie. Cheers ♥

I will Survive !

I swear my life is going to ruins. Too many things that are not right, a whole list of them. Now where do i start my list 1. My tv/decoder does not play quite a number of channels that i pay for on a monthly basis. This has been going on since FEBRUARY!!!! thats when i moved in here. I cant believe this. The last thing im left to do is to go to Multichoice with the damned decoder. So i dont see Vuzu tv, BigBrotherAfrica,BBCL , . Im sure you are asking yourself what on earth am i watching. I mean i already have half bouqet so im not left with much. 2. My oven decided to smoke up at some point when i was trying to bake my lasagna, so i havent been able to bake or roast in the past months. You know how i love cooking and baking right, well i do. 3. My washing machine refused to connect to the pipe here, so i havent been able to get the correct size pipe. Ive been driving around with it since months ago. Sigh. So i manually pour the water into the tub. Imagine all that manual work . 4. My bedroom has carpet(im not sure how i overlooked this little detail, because i suffer from bad sinuses, plus my chest is not 100%. So before i sleep i have to let out a little sneeze or cough...eish hay fever all over 5. My car is dusty! I was stopped by a metro cop the other day , he simply told me to get my car washed and let me go. Lol. Dont worry ill wash it this weekend With all this, i think i need disaster management unit to come and rescue me lol. One by one i plan to tackle these problems, i will not be defeated!!... I WILL SURVIVE Much ♥

MTN_SAMA19

Like most South Africans, tonight i am watching the MTN SAMAs from the comfort of my couch.  Theres no Minnie, Bonang or Sizwe. Im sure people are wondering how this turn out, well So far so good. Toya de lazy opened the show, i must say the technology failed her there. it wasnt as es epic as i had expecfed. i am a big fan, im sure i was the first few people that bought the album.

I thoroughly enjoyed the Desmonds and the Tutus together with Kabelo and Big Nuz was epic! Now we all know anything with Big Nuz is a winner!

Then came Zahara,wrapped up in Mrs Jones curtain! horrifying. All i thought was 'girl the days for The Sound of Music improvisation of outfuts are over. Shame to her stylist, if she has one. Khabomo on the other hand has pulled off that white suite very well for the body size that he is. Twitter is buzzing about Boity's hair, how bad it is. To be honest i see nothing wrong. 

And what is that Mabindu grouo wearing!!....shirts made of chiffon....in Red! Horror Then one of the members wets his pants, i wonder. 

well Donald is definately in love again, his Valentines inspired performance was convincing. and Newcomer of the year goes tovToya de Lazy!!!....well deserved girl. 

i think theres too many adverts in between. its after 10pm and im stilk waiting for that super Wow moment.  Kelly Khumalo looks stunning, with her all black outfit and her blonde hair. Best dressed can go to Nhlanhla Ncinza tonight. 

finally Lira drapped in Liquid Gold, Stunning! Well done Gert . She looks like an Egyptian queen. The perfirmance is phenomenal. Then kelly Khumalo performed and the camera went behind her, NUDITY,! 

well its all coming to an end now, and they are wrapping up with Dr Malingas performance, mine and the crowds favourite!! Awesome !

Ive had a geniunely great laugh, I hope next year I will be blogging from the venue itself.

Salute darlings, ♥

Hibernation Weekend ...

It's been a great week, with a holiday right in the middle (May day). the sun was shining, I rested like every working person should have been doing. It is now the weekend, well a few hours until it starts, and my phone has received those questions: What are you doing for the weekend Nokie? to be honest with you, I have zero plans. Zilch, Zero, nada !! and guess what? I am not the least bothered. Today i had to drop my car in for service, so you can imagine the amount of money i paid there. So my weekend activities shall be minimal, sadly. It will give me more  time to think about other activities I can engage in that can make me an extra income. Why not?. 

My ear is itchy, and in my culture if that happens, then someone is talking about me. lol. funny isn't it. Ok i have just received a call, my car is ready. I had asked my colleague to take me there once they call, i hope he is still around. Otherwise I'll be doomed! I always wonder what I would do if I didn't have plan B or back up plans as they call it. People are not reliable, and if you are a single lady, aich it's so hard hey. I will never forget the incident when my toilet blocked and I was not about to call a plumber, I was flat broke(though I hate to label myself like that) and so I had to think fast and make  a plan. I went to speak to one of the security guys at the complex and asked him if he would be able to assist, and he said he would try. and so I headed to the shops to try and find a Toilet Plunger!!!! yes I found it and brought it home ( I'm sure the cashier lady was wondering what I was doing with that thing). I got home, called the security guy and we went up to my place. He even came prepared with gloves shame. He sorted it out shem, I will forever be grateful to that guy, He really helped me in a very desperate situation, because I would have had to do it myself. IMAGINE!!! well yeah, the perks of being single. not nice at times. Back to my point, so at that time I could not think of a single male that could've assisted me hey, can you believe that. I told myself I would have to review my LBB (Little Black Book)....or maybe scrap it out all together, LOL.

I hope wherever you are single or not, understand the importance of having people around you, because you just never know hey.

Salute <3

Whats for dinner?

i know its a Monday dear people , but everyone has to eat something. whether you are feeling guilty from the weekend binging , or you are starting a new , new weeek, new diet ....well you have to eat.

yesterday i didnt do the whole 7 coloures sunday lunch that i often do, maybe not with all the coloures but some colour. i decided to go simple and made the macaroni and cheese. i enjoyed it, it turned out great. BUT there is no meat in that dish you know, yes i said it. i know i sound like a little scavenger ,....but ladies need protein too. So today i came home and made pork chops! yummy!....Macaroni and cheese with a pork chop on the side ♥no vegies i know, bad girl. i had three fruits at least.

So on that note let me enjoy my dinner, i hope you will be inspired to whip up a lil something and enjoy.

Much Love ♥

Encounters: What's a girl to do?

It is always interesting to meet someone new, by that someone I mean a man. I meet them alright, but ask me where they vanish off to? I don't have the slightest clue myself. I turned 30 this year, and It seems at that age men talk to you in a different manner. Recently this guy, I know from back in  2010, popped up out of nowhere. He came to where I am currently working last Friday, sat and chatted to me for a while. his subject was : I need you Nokwanda, I am tired of just dating for no purpose, I need to settle down and you are the girl for me. Wow, I was taken aback! Well not that much because I for one believe in actions rather than spoken word. so I told him that I will see by his actions how serious he was.

The weekend came, Saturday morning I received a lousy "Good Morning babe" from this "I want you in my life Nokwanda" guy!!!! I did not respond until much later with a simple Morning. and that was it! Communication for the weekend closed. the weekend ended and the week started, Monday morning I left my desk only to come back to 5 missed calls on all my phones including the work phone. Who had died!!! No one, it was this silly excuse of a guy calling me, because hey he had woken up from the weekend and oh he realized that there's a girl called Nokwanda. Mcwim.

today it's a Friday and I have not heard or been invited to any dinner date or outing by this guy. I am not surprised, guys love to throw around silly words to girls, well the thing is I am older and wiser. I will not make any contact with this guy, if he wants me he knows where and how to find me.

Guys have lost all sense of game, I mean what on earth is a girl to do? Living single is NOT a bad option, until I meet the one that will do right! Yes, do right. we cannot allow ourselves to tolerate mediocrity  it's not good for our health and self esteem, period.

Keep reading for more encounters......SALUTE